14 August, 2012

No Regrets

Looking back on our lives, we can have a mix of reactions to the things we’ve done. When it comes to sex, our memories can color us with pride, fondness, nostalgia, indifference, or all too often, regret.
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions delve into things that people typically regret later in life. How much do you regret, if at all, any of the following?
1. Do you regret how you “lost” your virginity? If yes, why and to whom would you have preferred to have lost it?
I don't really regret anything. It's not really worth it to continue wishing I had done something differently. All that matters to me is now and the future. I'm with who I want to be with now.
2. Have you ever lived a moment in your life where you said “Yeah, I’m not going to ever tell anyone about that.” Describe that moment or incident.
I trip and fall a lot. That's about it. I've done it at work a few times and just look around to make sure no one's looking and pretend it never happened.
3. Do you regret having acted on a sexual impulse? If yes, please describe.
No, I don't. I suppose there are a few things I probably SHOULD regret having acted impulsively. At one point a friend and I got into a pretty close intimate relationship, while I was still with another man. Said man was sleeping in the other room at the time. However, since that got me out of an abusive relationship I don't really care.
4. Do you regret not having had sex with someone who you could have had sex? If yes, would you do it over and have sex?
No. So far I have not come into a situation where I could have had sex with someone but chose not to.
5. Do you regret not having asked out or tried to hook up with someone you really liked out of fear of rejection only to later learn that person wanted you, too? If yes, please describe.
I have never been in a situation like this before. If I don't ask someone out, I'm not attracted to them or they're in a relationship with someone else. If I like them enough, they know it.
6. Do you regret having done a particular sex act? If yes, please describe.
Yes. I immensely regret allowing a prior boyfriend to have anal sex with me. He was constantly harassing me about doing it, despite the fact that I always told him no. Finally I just said yes so he'd shut up already. It was painful and not pleasurable to me in the least bit. It also meant that he thought he could do it to me any time he pleased afterwards. This is the same boyfriend who was abusive to me.
Bonus: Do you regret not having told someone you love them? Romantic, not familial or friendship love.

No. Aside from my fiance and previous boyfriends, I haven't been that close to someone.
How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblogfrom your website!



Jack and Jill said...

Excellent answer to #1. I do my best not to have regrets. They accomplish nothing and they impede one's forward movement. Plus, as you point out, I'm with who I want to be with now. What's the point in dwelling on the past.

Regarding #3, I can't imagine that anything that takes you out of such a bad situation is regrettable. Good for you for doing what you had to do.

Jill can relate to your thoughts on #6, having been in a sexual relationship (her first!) with someone who thought anal sex was his right to the point that he took it without asking. Men of this type suck.

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